Flirt Styles

Kansas University created a survey to help assess your flirt style. From Gannett News Service published on December 21, 2010, the following information was shared regarding this survey:

Flirting isn’t just flirting. New research at the University of Kansas, published in the journal Communication Quarterly, has identified five types of flirting behavior, based on responses from more than 5,020 heterosexual adults:

†Physical — often develop relationships quickly, have more sexual chemistry and have a greater emotional connection to partners.

†Traditional — believe men should make the first move and women should not pursue men. Both sexes tend to be introverted.

†Polite — less likely to approach potential partner; aren’t flattered by flirting, but do tend to have meaningful relationships.

†Sincere — strong emotional connections and sexual chemistry.

†Playful — often flirt with little interest in a long-term romance.

After taking the survey myself, these are my results. I guarantee these results are not the same ones I would have gotten when I was married!

My results are in...

This is what your flirting style means for your dating life. For all of these responses, you are compared against other people your same age and sex. The flirting style with the highest score tells you the most about your dating life.

Physical style: physical

You scored higher than 50–60% of other survey takers in your demographic.

For this flirting style, you are very similar to the majority of people. It is not a dominant style for you. This flirting style probably doesn’t play a big role in your flirting behavior.

Traditional style: not at all traditional

You scored higher than 0–10% of other survey takers in your demographic.

You do not believe that men should make the first move and women should not pursue men. You are very unlikely to feel uncomfortable in a flirting situation where a woman takes charge. You tend to be not at all choosey about who you flirt with, and it is very unlikely that you are selective about who you pursue romantic relationships with. In serious relationships, you do not believe that you should know a potential relationship partner for a long time before approaching them. You are very unlikely to seek out important and meaningful romantic relationships.

Polite style: not at all polite

You scored higher than 0–10% of other survey takers in your demographic.

You do not believe that courtship should be cautious and rule-governed. You are very unlikely to use proper manners, non-sexual communication, and less forward behavior during courtship. You tend to be not at all choosey about who you flirt with, and it is very unlikely that you took a long time to get to know someone before you knew you were romantically interested in them. You are very likely to like the singles scene and the way people typically flirt with one another. You are very unlikely to seek out important and meaningful romantic relationships.

Sincere style: somewhat sincere

You scored higher than 70–80% of other survey takers in your demographic.

You are somewhat interested in seeking emotional connection and showing sincere interest when flirting. You find flirting somewhat flattering, and believe that personal and private conversation is the best way to develop romance. When flirting, it is somewhat likely that you are:

Successful
Confident
Able to quickly determine relationship potential
In serious relationships, you are somewhat likely to experience a strong emotional connection and sexual chemistry.

Playful style: very playful

You scored higher than 80–90% of other survey takers in your demographic.

You are very likely to use flirting to boost your self-esteem and to have a good time. You do not believe that flirting should be reserved for the purpose of developing a relationship. You are very likely to flirt with those who you have no long-term romantic interest. You are very likely to find romantic interest in many other people, and to flirt everywhere you go. You strongly believe that flirting is flattering and enjoyable. In your last serious relationship, you were very likely to have a short and unimportant relationship that moved quickly, but didn’t last.

I am much more flirty now and it really does have to do with my sassy attitude. I never do it in a manner as to lead someone one, but very much is a silly-fun kind of way. For instance, last week I was standing in front of the microwave heating my lunch at the office. I heard someone come into the kitchen area. I looked over my shoulder and it was my IT guy. I nodded my head to him and he said, "I was wondering who that was standing there. I am not used to seeing you like this." I laughed and said, "So, you were looking at my buuutttt?!" He turned all red and chuckled and stammered before going on to explain that he wasn't used to seeing the smaller me yet. As I walked by him to leave the kitchen, I put my hand on his shoulder and told him it was ok, I got what he meant and winked at him. I suppose that would be considered playful. I just think it's kinda fun!