The Proposal

Marry Me! And no, I am not proposing to you. Once, many moons ago, I did propose to a man. As it turned out, I married him, too, but that was many break-ups and reconciliations later and NEVER have I had a real proposal. What do I consider to be a real proposal? One that includes true love, a ring, and an offer of marriage. I used to think the ring wasn't all that important. In many ways, I still agree with that. To me, it's more the symbol of the unity--the unbroken circle of the ring--and the fact that this man has chosen that particular ring for the woman he wants to marry with only her in mind. It signifies their union and beginning.

I have been asked to marry 4 men--all linked to military service. The first time, I was asked was by a man named Kevin. He was in the Navy, we'd gone to the same high school, and we shared a group of friends. He told me he had his grandmother's ring in a box and would marry me right now. Mind you, I'd not even kissed the guy nor w…

2017: Loved, #myoneword

In 2017, I was asked by a pastor-friend if I wanted to be part of a group praying through the #MyOneWord method and seeing what God had for us during that year. My dear friend, Jerri Kelley, has shared her stories of the Word God has given to her in the past and the amazing way in which is unfolds as He weaves this Word into your heart and life. As I went through the exercises for this, I ended up crossing off Hope, Faithfulness, Healer, Dauntless, and ended up with LOVED. The next part of the exercise was to find a verse that spoke of that to you. I ended up finding 18 that resonated with me containing LOVED in them and then four that rose to the top:

“...I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness.”
(‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭31:3‬)
We love because he firstlovedus. (1 John 4:19)
In this is love, not that we have lovedGod but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. (1 John 4:10)
but God shows his love for us in that while we …


I never would have guessed that I would be writing about contentment when I am in a season where so much is swirling around me as open ended, but that is where I find myself. It's amazing and so different than how I have been in seasons like this previously. I was sharing with a friend today at the #ifconference2018 that it's like standing in the midst of the storm walking on the water, my eyes are firmly planted on Jesus and seeking Him with each next step, but also knowing and feeling the storm and winds and rain lash all around me. The beauty is that I am not concerned enough by the storm to look away from Him. He is all I need. I am realizing that all my needs have been fully met and there is nothing I lack. When I stand firmly rooted in Christ Jesus, it brings total peace.
In a blog post I read earlier this week, the author shared a similar sentiment about looking for a relationship or a person as something that completes us as Jerry Maguire had told his person. She said, …


A while back, a friend popped up on my screen and said, "reassure me that not caving on your integrity is always the right thing." I assured him it was. Integrity is the one of those things like our attitude that we get to choose. We can have it and lead with it or we can let it be compromised by situations and circumstances. The one thing you cannot take from someone is their integrity. Hold onto yours.

People Who Walk With Integrity Walk Securely by Jon Walker

“The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out.” (Proverbs 10:9 NIV)
People with integrity live by fairness.
People of integrity consider their word their bond.
People of integrity are authentic and transparent.
People of integrity are straightforward in their conduct.
People with integrity explain the facts in an even-handed manner.
People of integrity go the extra mile with a smile.
People of integrity are not afraid to ask for help.
People of integrity focus on “whatever is true, wha…

A Friend in All Seasons

Growing up, I can remember having one very good friend at any given time. I am not quite sure why. Did I only have the capacity to fit one person in? Did I like that one person so much, that others were just okay? Did only one person like me during that given time--that's very possible, too. There were other people we played with in the neighborhood or at school, but I seem to have always had one special person to share my life with. Usually it was a girl, but I also had a good number of boys who became "my person" for seasonsand a couple have remained my go-to person as I needed to ask questions that men would have a better insight into or when I needed a man's view or perspective. Yet, there were other times where I was absolutely lonely and seemed to have no one. No one to call. No one to share the burden. No one.

After high school, I seemed to find myself with groups of friends. Tribes. People with common interests or a common place at a given time in life (e.g. C…

His Word is Alive

In July 2014, MJ was heading to his first duty station overseas. I was trying to share with him how not to get "lost" and be left adrift in the world when you're in the midst of times and places you don't yet understand. I don't know if he ever read it or heard the depth of my heart in what I was sharing, but I share this message here because it's for any of us who need a place to start. A place to lean into. A place to begin. A place to seek and find. A place to ask and receive. A place where when we knock, a door will be opened to the heart of Jesus. As JM is on my heart and mind, I think of him and others who are new to seeking God in His Word and not just in prayer. 

I was thinking about what to tell you to read in the Bible if you were wanting comfort. The Psalms are always a good place to start. I love the Gospel of get hooked with the first verse. As some one who like the details, Luke might be a good one for you as he was a doctor and very d…