Waking Up Me!

I read this article  posted by a friend. She asked what are the 20 things a woman should do for her man. My responses below were learned the hard way through my own 15 year marriage and the 9 years since I chose to divorce. They are not things I say lightly or for part-time living. They are for every day. Every. Day! Even when your man doesn't deserve it, hasn't earned it, give it to him. That is what unconditional love is. The most quoted verses at weddings is from 1 Corinthians 13. It speaks of God's love for us and is meant to teach us how to love like He does. That's what the marriage relationship is to emulate, God as Groom/Husband and us/the church as his Bride. 1. She speaks of him with deference in front of others including her girlfriends.  2.  She treats him with respect and lifts him up with her words, affirming his character.  3. She knows no one is perfect and gives him grace for those moments when he falls short for we all do.  4. She k...

Marry Me! And no, I am not proposing to you. Once, many moons ago, I did propose to a man. As it turned out, I married him, too, but that was many break-ups and reconciliations later and NEVER have I had a real proposal. What do I consider to be a real proposal? One that includes true love, a ring, and an offer of marriage. I used to think the ring wasn't all that important. In many ways, I still agree with that. To me, it's more the symbol of the unity--the unbroken circle of the ring--and the fact that this man has chosen that particular ring for the woman he wants to marry with only her in mind. It signifies their union and beginning. I have been asked to marry 4 men--all linked to military service. The first time, I was asked was by a man named Kevin. He was in the Navy, we'd gone to the same high school, and we shared a group of friends. He told me he had his grandmother's ring in a box and would marry me right now. Mind you, I'd not even kissed the guy nor ...